Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence can be caused by many factors. Most people think that to overcome low self-esteem, you have to look inside yourself and do a lot of navel gazing. But this isn’t necessarily true. We should also take a look at the external factors that might be contributing to chronic low self-esteem.
You may have already spent a good amount of time looking inside yourself for all the reasons that you’re struggling. Let’s take a look at the larger space that you’re living in. Ask yourself these questions and spend some time honestly thinking about your answers.
Learn to Live Large
Sometimes we feel small because we’re living small. This doesn’t mean that you have to do anything crazy or beyond your means but think about ways to create new space in your life.
Many people with low self-esteem find themselves living in a rut they can’t seem to escape. Maybe you’ve started to believe that you can’t do any better and you just stop trying new things. Over time, you’ll create a self-fulfilling prophecy without realizing it. Take a look at your life right now. What limitations have you accepted without challenging them? How can you create more space and margin in your life so that you can grow?
Surround Yourself With Positive People
We are deeply influenced by the people we spend the most amount of time with. This can be a good thing if you’re spending time with positive people, but not such a good thing if they’re negative and taking you with them.
Ask yourself how you’d feel if you didn’t speak to a certain friend or family member for a week. Would you feel relieved at the thought of missing that person’s rants about her life? Now think about a person who is a consistent source of encouragement in your life. You’d probably start to miss that person’s good influence in your life.
If there’s someone negative in your life, you don’t have to cut them out completely. But do look for ways to limit your time together and don’t be afraid to change the topic of conversation if things take a negative turn. However, if the relationship is so toxic that it’s causing damage to your emotional health, it’s perfectly okay to walk away.
Learn to Pursue New Experiences
Often a lack of confidence and self-esteem can be caused by becoming too comfortable. You do the same things in the same way every single day. You don’t change things up. You don’t challenge yourself to experience new things and you don’t go beyond what’s safe and comfortable. This can cause you to stop growing as a person.
When you go outside your normal and look for new experience, you open yourself up. You discover new ways to do things. You find solutions that you wouldn’t have come up with any other way. You learn more about yourself and the world around you.
You can find new experiences into your life just by looking for opportunities outside of your comfort zone. Try a new restaurant. Volunteer in a different part of town. Take a road trip with no agenda and see where you end up.
Your environment plays a big part in shaping your overall self-esteem, so don’t be afraid to look around at your life and make some needed changes. Surround yourself with people and experiences that build up your confidence and you’ll begin to overcome issues of low self-esteem.